Class is an aura of confidence that is being sure without being cocky. Class has nothing to do with money. Class never runs scared. It is self-discipline and self-knowledge. It’s the sure footedness that comes with having proved you can meet life.
— Ann Landers, born 1918
People judge your mannerisms more than your words. Some call it dignity, some call it class, and others call it posture, but whatever you call it, you know it when you see it!
This is an element of personal power that both creates, and is created by, success. Class, like self-worth, often times must occur before success, as it shows the world we are worthy of that which we are about to manifest. Dignity also speaks, from our actions, to our own sub-conscious, driving home the self-belief that what we have our hands on is powerful.
When you speak with the influential owner of a major business, you will find that (s)he is often more interested in you. These are not individuals that will lightly talk down on anyone or anything unless its constructive. If you speak of their business you will hear that there is a calm, quiet strength as they tell you about it but quickly brush it off. They KNOW the value of what they have. They can tell you its strengths. They can tell you what you are missing, but you know that they do NOT need you. These people will not fall over themselves to show you their business, and they most certainly will not bend over backwards to accommodate you to get you into their business. Would Bill Gates look at you with puppy dog eyes, pleading you to come join Microsoft? I think not!
Posture can be difficult in the beginning for any business though; when time, money, people and other resources are badly needed. It seems counter-intuitive perhaps, but those resources will first be given to the individual who, upon succinctly making his or her needs known honestly and truthfully, also lends the impression that they will succeed with our without the resources being provided. It is this deep embodied sense that “no obstacle is larger than their vision”, that leads others to want to donate, want to help, want to participate, and want to follow this leader.
Class and dignity are a matter of self-understanding. They come with culture, with experience, and with immersion in self-development. These are traits bred in great books, seminars, workshops, mentoring with great leaders, becoming familiar and comfortable with the environment you seek to make yours, and… most importantly… being comfortable in your own skin and with who YOU are! Once you are secure in you, the traits that are “missing” from class, those of negativity, tearing others down, slandering others, and dwelling on negatives and “could have, should have’s”, will no longer burden you. Your deep internal confidence will show brighter than any aura.
What does class, dignity and posture mean to you? How have they changed your interactions with others? What can you learn from those that display great class? Who comes to mind when you think of someone with class? Leave me a message and lets share!